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It’s an easy, profound read, that has saved many of my relationships (including my inner self connection) from despair.
Born on 10 January, 1938, Gary is a 23/5 Rebellifepath in numerology, which means that he’s here to heal his Throat Chakra (Truth and Intuition), and to help people see other points of view. Gary suggests that we all receive love in different ways.
When our ‘love tank’ (or heart) is full, we are confident, committed and faithful. When our ‘love tank’ is empty, we tend to look outside ourselves, or our relationships, for approval.
We all have one or two preferred ‘love languages’, which often reflect what we didn’t get enough of as children. Hint: What you complain about in others, often highlights your love language!
The 5 Love Languages include:
-Words of Affirmation (sincere compliments and encouragement)
-Acts of Service (physical deeds to help another e.g. doing chores)
-Gifts (thoughtful presents given from the heart)
-Quality Time (one-on-one time, with minimal interruptions)
Please note – the info in brackets is my interpretation of each love language. Discover your love language on Gary’s site.
What I love about Gary’s book is that it’s full of hope – stories of people who fell out of love, and then back into it. This fits in perfectly with my experiences as a psychic reader and Holistic counsellor in Brisbane. I truly believe that ‘everything is heal-able’, and that we are all Angels in street clothing.
Kris and I are fortunate in that we both like Physical Touch. Having a similar primary love language to your partner is helpful, but not essential, for staying together.
No doubt, this is the result of our strict upbringings. I never hugged another person until I was 14 or so. I still remember trying to hug my friends and smacking them in the jaw with my shoulder! These days, I make a point to kiss or hug Kris whenever I see him. It keeps our oxytocin (love hormone) levels high and feels fantastic.
I should mention, you can’t fake this stuff. Once you figure out your partner (or child/ relative/ colleague’s) love language, it takes practice and dedication to implement these principles. Unless you truly want to enhance your relationship, no amount of book-reading or personality analysis will save it.
More on Words of Affirmation:
I grew up in an intellectual family, where criticism and sharing your opinion was part of life – it was a case of ‘she who speaks first, wins’.
Over the years, I’ve (mostly) let go of this habit, and learned to listen more than I talk – there’s a reason we have two ears and one mouth. This step alone has transformed my love life.
I am no longer afraid of what people say, because I’ve learned to ‘fill my love tank’ and be kind to myself no matter what. I do this through acts of self-love, like manifestation journalling, meditation, prayer, counselling and holding or praising myself when times are tough. Read more on how to stop self-criticism.
Despite the old rhyme that ‘sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me’, what we say to ourselves and others does have an impact. Words have energy, and we are all energetic beings. As someone who can occasionally see auras, I’ve watched people literally ‘shrink’ under criticism, or go grey when other people attack them. Insults look like a hail of bullets, especially when the receiver is a small child.
Words have been my greatest wounding, and medicine. Perhaps it’s because I have a Karmic 13/4 Destiny in my name, which requires me to use words wisely. Read more on Karmic 13, 15, 16 and 19 numerology.
Here are 7 statements that changed my life, for better or for worse:
1) Your mother’s crazy. My Dad used to say this as a joke. Ironically, he and I are telepathic (read more). I grew up with mixed feelings about being female, because I had relatives who could see or feel ghosts. Some were put on anti-depressants or given electroshock therapy. I tried so hard to avoid their fate, that I dissociated from my femininity and intuition until my 20’s. No wonder I had such bad period pain and didn’t have children until now. I was totally sceptical of psychics (see statement 6 below).
Now I know that ‘crazy is subjective’. As one of my favourite school teachers Ms Krauth used to say, ‘blessed are the cracked, for they let in the light’ (attributed to Groucho Marx or Spike Milligan). These days, when other people tell me I’m mad for running a business, charging for psychic readings, or listening to my inner voice, I see this as a sign I’m on track! Read more on staying Zen under criticism.
When I almost repeated her choices by getting engaged a year into my Government graduate program, I remembered her words and went to the United Nations (UN) instead. This was the right decision, as it led to me starting my psychic practice, which has given me a wonderful life/ work balance. My Mum taught me to look before I leapt, which may have saved my life.
*As a Master 29/11 Lifepath in numerology, my purpose is to be a Spiritual Messenger and one of my peak years for maturity is 29. I find that many people with Master Numbers (11, 22, 33 etc) have unusually testing childhoods, to prepare them to be pioneers as adults. They often see prompts like 11:11 once they are ready to wake up to their potential – I did. Find your lifepath.
11:11 or triple numbers’. They often text a few days later with pictures – the photo above came from another 11 Lifepath (my wonderful sister-in-law), whose computer beeped at her at11.11, for no particular reason!
7) It’s ok to cry/ it’s safe to speak up. I wish we learned emotional and psychic intelligence at school. It would save so many lives, careers and marriages.
As an empath, I used to feeling, seeing and hearing things that other people don’t.
When I was younger, I was often told to be quiet or not to cry. Internalising this comments resulted in various sinus problems (problems ‘facing things’), eczema (things getting ‘under my skin’), nosebleeds (too much pressure) and acne (wanting to break out).
It’s only after many personal growth courses, Family Constellations, and reading books like Caroline Myss’s Anatomy of the Spirit (my favourite chakra healing book) that I understand there are no shortcuts to maturity – my parents were exactly the teachers I needed for my life’s work. We’re on much better terms now that I’ve let go of the chip on my shoulder.
One of the best techniques I ever studied was The Work of Byron Katie (a wise 7 lifepath). I will never forget my facilitator Rosie Stavesitting at my feet as I bawled my eyes out. I had just done The Work on ‘it’s not ok to cry’ and realised how that one belief had held me back from ever feeling truly happy or sad.
Rosie looked up at me with her big brown eyes and I thought ‘my God, she really has no ego – she isn’t here to tell me what to do, just to witness my enlightenment’. What a gift.
Toxic thoughts are much better out than in – it’s important to find a safe way of expressing them so that fresh ones can arrive, otherwise you will keep reliving your past.
Emotions are simply energy in motion – breathe in and then let them go, because your life and loved ones are waiting for you!
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With best wishes,
(a 29/11 lifepath & Master Numbers Teacher)
Professional Psychic Reader
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